Splitsville

By Team Splitsville | March 27, 2014 | 6 replies Several years ago, I went through a split of my own. I was lucky my divorce was a respectful experience. My ex (I cant stand that term!) and I continue to lovingly co-parent two happy and vibrant kids. Still, I felt isolated from friends and family during the uncomfortable, undecided phase while I wa... s still in the marriage. Lets face it: if your friends havent been through it, they just dont get it. And no one wants to talk about the end of your marriage over eggs at brunch. Once the decision was made to split, I was overwhelmed by everything I needed to do to make sure our kids had two secure and stable homes instead of one, not to mention navigating a new world as a separated, soon-to-be-divorced, co-parenting mom who was dating again for the first time in over a decade. During those years, I did what everyone does to find solutions I fired up the Internet! Lo and behold, I didnt find much. There were fundamentalist blogs that said divorce was a sin and a handful of sad-sack divorcee forums. It was a desolate landscape. Sure, I had tons of well-meaning friends who offered unnecessary sympathy before dodging the topic, a therapist, a nightstand stacked with self-help books, and no shortage of chatty co-workers, but I needed a real-time community with practical knowledge, insight and wisdom. I needed to hear from other people who were also uncoupling and dealing with the same big changes that I was. I was shocked that in 2011, there wasnt a place that embraced this transition and all its opportunities in a clear-eyed, modern voice. And in early 2014, there still wasnt, until I started Splitsville. Why wasnt post-marital life given a fraction of the airtime, bandwidth and magazine ink that weddings and babies get? Countless platforms exist for people who want to date, get married and have kids. There are apps, gift registries, cable networks and entire media empires devoted to happily ever after. If over half of all marriages end in divorce and long-term couples ...Read More