1000 Questions for Couples

In a ground-breaking study recently featured in the New York Times, psychologist Arthur Aron succeeded in making two strangers fall in love simply by having them ask each other a series of 36 questions. The questions were specifically designed to build trust, openness and eventually feelings of deep intimacy. The journalist writing the piece for th... e New York Times was so intrigued by the study and having gone through a recent breakup asked a man she was merely acquainted with (they had never hung out one on one) if he was willing to meet at a bar and go through these questions with her as an experiment. They met and over the course of a few hours asking each other the questions something fascinating happened: "I wondered what would come of our interaction. If nothing else, I thought it would make a good story. But I see now that the story isnt about us; its about what it means to bother to know someone, which is really a story about what it means to be known. Its true you cant choose who loves you, although Ive spent years hoping otherwise, and you cant create romantic feelings based on convenience alone. Science tells us biology matters; our pheromones and hormones do a lot of work behind the scenes. But despite all this, Ive begun to think love is a more pliable thing than we make it out to be. Arthur Arons study taught me that its possible simple, even to generate trust and intimacy, the feelings love needs to thrive. Youre probably wondering if he and I fell in love. Well, we did." Asking the right questions can help you fall in love, stay in love or grow deeper in love. Additionally, asking the right questions will potentially save you a lot of heart-ache if asked early in the relationship if "red flags" pop up. I've heard way too many stories of long-term relationships or marriages breaking up because important things never got discussed in the early stages and caused huge issues later on. Where are you currently in your relationship or non-relationship? ___ I miss the great conversations we used to ...Read More