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Published on: 11/28/2007
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"A lot of parents give out of guilt," says Joe Ventura, a financial planner in Latham and president of William Tell Financial Services, "some because it's a split family, some because they haven't spent as much time with their children as they know they should, some because the rest of their lives aren't that great, and they try to make up for that at the holidays."
But guilt is no reason to shower your children in holiday gifts, Ventura says.
"If you can examine yourself and say, 'I'm giving to my children out of the abundance of my heart,' then you've got the right motive," he says."If you can do that, then the amount you're spending is probably irrelevant, because it's probably the right amount."
* Start planning -- and shopping -- early.
Ventura and his wife, Karen, who have three children, ages 9, 15 and 17, decide in January how much they'll spend the following Christmas.Then they make monthly deposits into a Christmas account.
"I know this sounds crazy, but you should do your Christmas shopping throughout the year," Ventura says."That way you can do it logically and stay away from the emotion, because when we spend emotionally, we spend too much."
If you wait until the last minute, then logic disappears and desperation takes over.
"If it's just before Christmas, and you're feeling rushed," Ventura says, "then you're like, 'Who cares what I spend?