Midlife Moments Questions and Answers -
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Published on: 4/1/1998
Last Visited: 5/27/2008
Susanne Beier, M.Ed., NCC, NCCC A Ph.D. student at Walden University, Susanne earned her master's degree in counseling and psychology from Rutgers University.Her professional counseling practice, which began in 1985, focuses on adults in crisis, including those experiencing marital conflict, divorce, job loss and career change.A recognized authority on these subjects, Susanne has been featured in such publications as New Woman, Self, Working Woman and Cosmopolitan.(See also "There's Light at the End of the Tunnel.")
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Visit with Mike and Susanne and other guests of Best Years 24 hours per day at Friends of Best Years.
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Visit with Mike and Susanne and other guests of Best Years 24 hours per day at Friends of Best Years.
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It's a "thank you" to Mike for starting this site, and to Susanne for a frank, honest, and heartfelt response to a question I sent in.
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Susanne clued me in to the fact that he didn't have a capacity to love (after I described several behaviors) -- and I was caught in the middle of it.She let me know that it wasn't a personal thing against me -- it was his problem.She said I needed to decide if I felt better with him or without him.After that, it became clearer and clearer to me just how right she was.I even went to counseling, alone, like she suggested.
Today, months later, I am in love with someone else --- ME!!!!!I have started college, joined a sports league (and won 1st place!), and have done a hundred other things for myself.It feels so good.I still plan to leave my husband, as I told Susanne from the beginning, but now it is not an angry leaving.I realize now that he is just different in too many ways, especially morals.Most importantly, I do not feel the same for him.Strange thing is he now thinks I'm having an affair or something. (I guess I am - with myself).
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Visit with Mike and Susanne and other guests of Best Years 24 hours per day at Friends of Best Years.
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Visit with Mike and Susanne and other guests of Best Years 24 hours per day at Friends of Best Years.
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Visit with Mike and Susanne and other guests of Best Years 24 hours per day at Friends of Best Years.
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Visit with Mike and Susanne and other guests of Best Years 24 hours per day at Friends of Best Years.
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Visit with Mike and Susanne and other guests of Best Years 24 hours per day at Friends of Best Years.
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Visit with Mike and Susanne and other guests of Best Years 24 hours per day at Friends of Best Years.
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I think Susanne said once that less than 25% of men in affairs end up continuing them (but then that's not exactly what you asked).
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Visit with Mike and Susanne and other guests of Best Years 24 hours per day at Friends of Best Years.
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Visit with Mike and Susanne and other guests of Best Years 24 hours per day at Friends of Best Years.
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Visit with Mike and Susanne and other guests of Best Years 24 hours per day at Friends of Best Years.
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Visit with Mike and Susanne and other guests of Best Years 24 hours per day at Friends of Best Years.