Paul C. Bartlett Ph.D.

Paul Bartlett, a clinical psychologist at the Behavioral Health Services Unit of Great Plains Regional Medical Center, encourages people to talk about the event.He said talking and listening to spouses and friends helps people deal with their feelings.

"I would suggest that parents reply honestly to questions and not refrain from expressing their own feelings," Bartlett said."Don't pretend the crime wasn't heinous, but emphasize the factors that provide safety within the family."

Bartlett said talking with others about thoughts and feelings related to the crime helps reduce confusion and anxiety related to the trauma.He also suggested not bringing up the heinous nature of the crime unless kids have been exposed to it.

"Respond to the questions kids have in terms they can comprehend," Bartlett said."Reassure them repeatedly that you understand their fears and concerns and that law enforcement is working to keep them safe."

Bartlett also said many adults are feeling more vulnerable and anxious since the terrorist attacks of Sept. 11.

"This is an opportunity to teach some realism about the world," Bartlett said, "to advise them of the dangers in the world."