Enhancing Attachment by Val Free (Heartsent''s Director)
A Bird's Eye View
Reprinted from the Families With Children From China Newsletter 1997.
by Val Free (Director, Heartsent Adoptions, Inc. and adoptive mom)
This has been her
nickname for a long time, very soon after she
joined our family in 1992, after spending almost five years in a Chinese orphanage.
The name conjures many things that fit for Li
: the bird who is hypervigilant, ever-aware of potential harm and quick to take flight in times of apparent danger, the bird who can soar and sing when life is happy, and the bird who has the "eye", or perspective that sometimes others don't have.
case, Li's broader perspective includes an early life in the orphanage, where children were crowded together amidst deafeningly loud voices that echoed in the huge rooms, where it was cold, where there were quick and startling reprimands followed by a swat with a bamboo pole, and where there were small bowls of watery soup that left her
In the Spring/Summer FCC Newsletter, my husband, Dick, wrote about Li
in an article he
entitled "The Gift of Love".
wrote about his
love for her
, and about our family's journey together in those first few years of her
Here I will offer a "bird's eye view", or the rest of the story.
own perspective of how those early experiences shaped her
, how she
came to join us, and how she
has managed to turn into a beautiful swan in this, her
Hopefully someday she
can write about her
perspective, offering all of us a firsthand glimpse into the orphanage experience in China.
adoptive mother, I have been at her
side as she
has struggled to make sense of life and learn a whole new set of values.
Val Free, MFCC, is the Executive Director/ Co-Founder of Heartsent Adoptions, Inc., 15 Altarinda Road, Suite 100, Orinda, Ca. 94563 (925) 254-8883.
husband started the Parents' Warmline to address issues of older child adoptions.
Feel free to call Val or Dick at Heartsent or fax to (925) 254-8866.
Shining Light into Dark Corners by Val Free
Val Free, MFCC, is the Executive Director / Co-Founder of Heartsent Adoptions, Inc., 15 Altarinda Road, Suite 100, Orinda, California 94563 ph (925) 254-8883.
husband Dick started the Parents' Warmline to address issues of older child adoptions.
Feel free to call Val
or Dick at Heartsent
Going Back - Journal From Vietnam 2001 by Val Free
Written by Val Free