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Tony A

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Hope for Adult Children

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Hope for Adult Children

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Employment History

The Palm Beach Institute


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ACAS

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Early History - Adult Children of Alcoholics - World Service Organization, Inc.

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Tony A. was about fifty years old then.Cindy , a member of the Hope for Adult Children of Alcoholics group , heard him and asked him to be a guest speaker at her group.Tony A. went and shared his experience , strength , and hope on the characteristics he found he had in his adult life due_to growing up in an alcoholic home.The former Alateens were in their early twenties while Tony was half a century old , yet the difference in their ages dissolved with the shared background , experiences , and feelings.There were tears and laughter and a sense of belonging and understanding that transcended the years.They identified with Tony and he stayed.After six or seven months , instead_of the increasing membership they expected , the fledgling meeting had dwindled to three or four people.The meeting was about to fold.Something rather powerful in Tony motivated him to invite members of Alcoholics Anonymous to join the little group.Some of them , after all , had alcoholics parents of their own , didn't they.Seventeen members of AA showed_up that next week.At the following meeting there were fifty people.At the next there were over one hundred AAs.The somewhat radical Al-Anon meeting was on its way with a lot of help from some very good friends.Tony A. chaired that second meting called Generations. He also went to the Hope for Adult Children meeting during this period.The Generations meeting was not affiliated with any organization.For about six months it operated with no format.Members of that group vehemently encouraged Tony to do something to formalize , to legitimize , to do something---anything---to establish the group.So Tony sat_down at work the following morning and , in two hours , jotted_down thirteen characteristics of the fellowship.He said of the experience , It was as if Someone Else was writing the list through me..Tony worked near Chris.She had offered to type_up the list , so he ran it over to her.She typed_up the thirteen characteristics.Then Tony realized he'd forgotten to ad that little piece about fear.No , they'd never admit fear.Excitement.Yeah , better.They'd accept excitement.' We became addicted to excitement....Tony wrote The Characteristics.He also wrote The Solution.Chris edited The Solution ( things like God became he/she/it in the transformation ) .When Tony read The Characteristics at the next meeting , one of the members , Barry , said , Hey , that's my laundry list! That list of characteristics has since been called The Laundry List..This was the official beginning of ACA ( ACoA ) .No one quite remembers the date of this most auspicious occasion , but who'd have expected these humble beginnings to become a worldwide.movement to stop child abuse from the inside.When we began , Tony said , There was a wonderful feeling of mutual love , empathy , and understanding..After a Generations meeting one evening in late 1979 or early 1980 , two ladies approached Tony.They were from the General Services of Al-Anon and invited the Generations group to join.Al-Anon.The only real stipulation was that the meeting had to discontinue using The Laundry List.The group unanimously agreed that it would not give_up its Laundry List.This was the beginning of the movement away from Al-Anon.At this time , AA people were looking at Tony like he was a little crazy.Seems he was advocating a departure from the AA Steps.Tony.couldn't see the logic in the idea of being restored to sanity since restoration means to be given back something we once had.Coming from sick homes , we didn't have any sanity to begin with.Keeping in mind that Tony was a concurrent member of AA--which may explain the one hundred friends that saved and established the Hope for Adult Children meeting---he nevertheless felt The.Twelve Traditions of AA were limiting for this particular program.He didn't see its use then , and doesn't see it today.Similarly , he doesn't feel the concept of anonymity is as important in ACA as it is in AA.Anonymity is needed so we don't talk about other members and their stories.I feel that personal.anonymity can be broken on any level---press , radio , etc.After all , anonymity can be a sick family secret , rather than healthy..Tony began to feel he was being put into the position of an authority figure , something he never wanted to be.I was terrified of authority figures , and of becoming one.An authority figure , to me , can be a perpetrator. He also feared the impact on his own recovery from all the attention.He turned over the meeting and stayed away from the Program.When he.returned for a visit , there was a hush over the room when he entered.It was a heady ego-rush , but he was concerned about his own recovery , as_well_as the program having individuals greater.than others.It just didn't feel right for ACA.So , in 1981 , he became a drop-out and attended Al-Anon in the interim.As he left New_York in 1981 , some of the women in the hope for Adult Children ACA group formally asked Al-anon to adopt the format and literature of ACA.This is why there are Adult.Children Focus meetings in Al-Anon today not affiliated with the ACA World Services.When Tony moved to Florida , he was asked to start a Tuesday night ACA meeting at Bethesda-by-the-Sea.He had started a few meetings in the area before that , but this was the meeting that survived.Then another meeting sprang_up in Delray , another in Sarasota , then down in the Keys , then Orlando...In 1985 Tony got a call from an ACA member , Marty S. , out in California.Marty encouraged Tony to come_out of anonymity to establish the legitimate founder of the ACA Program.Tony himself never claimed to be THE founder of ACA.He will accept the title of Co-Founder , giving credit to the four or five members of the original Hope for Adult Children meeting.He is , however , the person who penned the original Characteristics that define our fellowship.A former stock-broker in New_York , Tony A. was counseling indigents at the same time he was continuing to be a stockbroker in Florida.In 1988 , he went to work for the Palm_Beach Institute.and began to write a book entitled The Laundry List , published_out the program in 1991.The following is a quote from Tony A.I never expected ACoA to become a worldwide program when it began.We were working on trying to keep a little meeting going back then.The first time I got a glimpse that ACoA had national or international possibilities was when Barry said to copyright The Laundry List.He did foresee this , but I had no idea.I felt The Laundry List should be anonymous at that time and never copyrighted it.>From an interview with Tony AOctober 5 , 1992 , DATE : [ 10/05/1992 ]


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