, a 42-year-old Web site designer and freelance writer in Pearland, TX, became friends with a woman whom we'll call Karen about a dozen years ago when their now-teenage daughters attended the same preschool.
Around four years ago, Glaesmann's husband launched a successful business, while Karen, who is a teacher, divorced her husband.
"So around the same time, our income went up and hers went down," says Glaesmann
wanted to spend time with her
friend, if they wanted to do something together that was out of Karen's budget, Glaesman would offer to pay.
"At the beginning, she
would insist on paying me back in installments, which would usually just taper off after a while," Glaesmann
At one point, Karen, who could not afford a mowing service, was receiving notices from her
homeowner's association because her
lawn was too high.
to pay for a service for a few months, and promised she
would pay it back, which she
did - at the beginning.
It took her
a while but she
ended up paying the other months back," says Glaesmann
But recently, Glaesmann
has begun feeling taken advantage of again, with the most recent example occurring when they wanted to go see a show.
Karen said, "You'll buy the tickets and I'll drive," says Glaesmann
thought, "What the hell am I - the bank?"
is discovering the hard way, it isn't easy being friends with someone of different means.