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Paula Stahl, Director, Children's Charter, A Division of Key, Inc.
www.bostonmagazine.com: Poor Little Rich Kids
Adds Dr. Paula Stahl, founder and director of Children's Charter, a family and child trauma clinic in Waltham: "One need only imagine what it's like to be in a family where there's abuse in a suburb where such things supposedly never happen."
"As long as there's denial in place," says Stahl
, "I know there are children out there who need help and won't get it."
That much, at least -- along with the trauma of abuse, of course -- is the same for both rich and poor kids."When you're abused as a child, you also learn that the world is not yours," says Denise, the Boston attorney who says she was abused by her parents.
Boston Globe Online / Life At Home / When child reveals abuse, parent reaction is crucial
"The danger is that you frighten a child or contaminate the information," says Paula Stahl, director of the Children's Charter/Key Trauma Clinic in Waltham, one of the leading childhood trauma centers in the state.
Children's disclosures aren't necessarily direct:
Preschoolers tend to blurt out angry statements: "I hate that baby sitter!""You can't make me go to Uncle Joe's!"Rather than dismiss this as stubbornness, ask questions: "Why do you hate him so much?"
Whether or not you know who the perpetrator is (including if it's the other parent), the next step is the same: Get professional help immediately, someone who has experience with sexual abuse. (See tip box.) Expect a telephone consult within 24 hours of your call, says Stahl
.The first meeting should be without your child.
It's a mistake to think you can handle this within your family, even if your child insists on not telling, Stahl
and others say.It becomes another secret and translates to a child that this is too shameful to deal with, that you think it's his
fault, or that you don't really believe him.
Children's Charter/Key -- Catalogue for Philanthropy MASSACHUSETTS : HUMAN SERVICES
Paula Stahl, Ed.D., Director of Children's CharterChildren's Charter/Key
"The Children's Charter
" was the name given to the first English child abuse laws, passed by Parliament at the end of the 19th century.In 1985, Dr. Paula Stahl
created an outpatient mental health clinic with that name, to provide highly specialized treatment for low-income children and families coping with the trauma of sexual abuse.Mindful of the stresses on clinicians working intensively with such cases, Dr. Stahl
also created a supportive professional environment that featured working in teams and advanced training.Dr. Stahl's
husband, who owned a real estate development company, provided keystone funding for the clinic until his
death in 2000.
Middlesex Savings Charitable Foundation
(Pictured are (from left to right): William Lyttle, Key Company President; Dr. Paula Stahl, Children's Charter Founder; Dana Neshe, Middlesex Savings Charitable Foundation President; and A. James Lavoie, Middlesex Savings Charitable Foundation Vice President.)