finds in his
counseling practice that most parents are upfront about their problems if they are asked.
"What happens when [your son] is just staring at his
Kilcarr, who is also the director of Georgetown University's Center for Personal Development, asks parents.
"What are your responses?
The answers help him evaluate the parents' need for treatment, something he
says that many parents don't expect: "The parent is really showing concern for their child, but they hadn't planned on going into their own psyche and patterns. . . . [But] if we are going to repair the problem, it has to be done on all fronts."
A parent of a child with ADHD has to be an "advocate for that child - attending and scheduling school meetings [for example]," says Kilcarr