Matt Carter, pastor of Austin Stone Community Church in Austin, Texas, speaks during the 2013 Pastors' Conference at the George R. Brown Convention Center in Houston.
5 the "most important sermon preached by the most important person," Stetzer said it presents light as the visible dimension of a faithful Christian life.
Matt Carter, pastor at Austin Stone Community Church in Austin, Texas, challenged pastors to love their wives and family well.
"We want to be known as men who are not only making an impact in our ministries," Carter
said, "but we want to be known as great husbands and great fathers."
preached from Ephesians 5, emphasizing Jesus' love for the church.
own personal story as an example, he
confessed that earlier in his
ministry, if someone pulled back the veil on his
life, it would be evident he
was not a great husband.
Several years ago, after Carter's wife said she
did not feel pursued or cherished by him, he
passion for the church had eclipsed his
primary call to love his
turned to Ephesians 5 to seek guidance from God as he
sought to win back the heart of his
Although familiar, He
pointed out in Ephesians 5:23-25 that Jesus not only loved the church but He
"Find out, men, the way your wife receives love and then love her
that way," Carter
said, "and do it first regardless of what she's
works hard to love his
wife by being a "one-woman man." He
never travels alone, has protective software on both his
computer and phone, and has given access to his
email, phone, social media and financial records over to his
also encouraged pastors to lead first in the arena of conflict: "In the midst of conflict, you take the initiative to bring peace."
said that besides the Holy Spirit, God has called husbands to take an active part in their wives' sanctification.
A husband should regularly ask his
wife about her
spiritual life and encourage her
to utilize her
spiritual gifts in the body of Christ.
"I believe there are way too many wives out there that are widows spiritually," Carter
said, "and we as pastors are ministering to everyone around us but her