Women gauge the health of a relationship by how well they think you understand them, says Mark Elliott, Ph.D., the director of the Institute for Psychological and Sexual Health, in Columbus, Ohio.
And one of the ways to communicate understanding to your partner is not to spring into action every time she
expresses concern about something-a common male default.
Instead of saying "here's how we fix this," simply listen to her
and acknowledge that you understand her
concern, even if you disagree with it.
Listening and understanding are powerful validations of how much you respect her
"Let me tell you how my presentation went."
asks how your day went, she
doesn't want to hear "fine, and yours?