Although the 21st century has brought about many shifts in what defines gender roles, according to Dr. Kevin Alderson
, some things are not going to change.
Alderson, who is a licensed psychologist and professor of counselling psychology at the U of C, said that the family one grows up in shapes the way one sees the world.
"We tend to carry the habits of our families," he
In Western society men still have that "little bit" of extra power over women, Alderson
said, but the trends of traditional gender roles have lessened, and they are more common in less educated couples.
Men who are struggling to find their place in relationships may be having a problem due to society's need to categorize them.
said that though men no longer have to adhere to the "alpha male" stereotypes of the past, there exists a sacred line they don't want to cross in portrayal of their masculinity for fear of being seen in a way that they do not want to be seen.
also said that in relationships, women still want a rugged guy and expect men to be the stronger partners.
According to him, men are very conscious of how they present themselves.
also specializes in working with people who have sexuality and gender identity concerns, and he
said that in the LGBTQ community, relationship roles are more versatile.
While LGBTQ relationships are not as defined, Alderson
said that a gay male relationship consisting of two 'tops' could pose a sexual satisfaction issue because not every gay man enjoys anal sex.
In regards to gender roles, Alderson
also believes that people are trying to escape the confines of discrimination on a whole, and society needs to introduce people to diversity at a young age.