Hilda Twongyeirwe, a womens rights activist and coordinator of FEMRITE Uganda Women Writers Association, a local nongovernmental organization, says that more Ugandans are becoming open-minded about marriage, especially people younger than 40 and who attain higher education . This is a departure from older generations, who still view single life negatively, she says.
is still considered important, but it is not a priority, she
says that educated people pursue careers, so they now delay marriage or choose not to marry at all.
also attributes the shift in marital views to increased foreign influence.
From the late 90s, there was a lot of interaction between Ugandans and other nationals in schools, workplaces, churches and markets, Twongyeirwe
They learnt from others different perspectives about marriage.
More women than men are single
because they dont subscribe to the traditional patriarchal views of how wives should act in Ugandan society, Twongyeirwe
Women who dont fit the definition of marriageable according to society often find themselves remaining single, she
Even men are looking for women who can play the womens role cook, raise children, look after the home and these women are getting fewer.
says people also now delay or avoid marriage because of economic reasons, personal preferences and past experiences.
Some people have other priorities, others may have suffered disappointments and others, hard economic times, she
Social pressure and stigma surround unmarried women and men, but Twongyeirwe
says that unmarried women suffer more stigma than men.
says that she
hears many negative comments about unmarried women but hasnt heard any about unmarried men.
Unmarried men are simply encouraged to find wives, but unmarried women are regarded impossible, rebellious and proud, demeaning men who approach them, she
An unmarried women is looked at as one who has refused to fit in the box that society has designed for her
is then seen as a rebel because society feels they have lost control over her