by F. Diane Barth, LCSW
Published on March 16, 2013 by F. Diane Barth, L.C.S.W. in Off the Couch
I am no longer invited to watch the NCAA basketball tournament on television with my husband. (In case you don't know what I'm talking about, in March the college basketball conference playoffs culminate in a three week national tournament - aptly named "March Madness").
An avid and lifelong Duke fan, he
cannot believe that I get upset for the kids on the losing team - even when, as occasionally happens, it happens to be the team he's
pulling for. (He's considering banning me from other sports as well - since this seems to be a characterological failing on my part.)
says winning and losing is part of the game, and that the team members have to learn to lose as well as to win (this is something that Duke's beloved Coach Kryzeweski, affectionately called Coach K, has written about in his
book "Leading with the Heart: Coach K's Successful Strategies for Basketball, Business, and Life," on his
experiences and thinking aboutcoaching the Duke team to excellence).
F. Diane Barth, LCSW
F. Diane Barth, L.C.S.W., is a psychotherapist, teacher, and author in private practice in New York City.