has been to hell and back.
knows firsthand why so many women stay with their abusive partners.
also knows what it's like to have the courage to leave and never look back.
Being exposed to abuse in her
childhood and then finding it again in her
adult relationships have given her
the strength to empower other women to do what she
did--create an exit plan and take back your life.
In 2003, Nixon-Bowles started Women Called Moses Coalition and Outreach, Inc, a non-profit organization that helps battered women and their children.
Inspired by the idea of Harriet Tubman who with her own intricate network, created a plan to help thousands of slaves out of bondage and on the path to freedom, Nixon-Bowles
also goes in the middle of the night, helping battered women escape their abusers and sets them up in safe houses or shelters until they can figure out their next steps.
has helped at least 500 of these women in the Dallas/Ft.
Worth area escape but gets calls from all over the country.
what inspired her
to start this organization, explains why it's not that easy to just walk away from an abuser and gives specific information every woman should know about dealing with domestic violence.
: What inspired you to start Women Called Moses?
: Being a survivor, I always wanted to give back and help women who had been through domestic violence.
: I was with this really nice guy and in less than a year, he
started talking down to me, slapping me, accusing me of looking at other men and not having sex the right way.
: I had friends who I told and they would say, why don't you just leave?
It was always like, girl, you're crazy for staying.
No one gave me a plan, but I don't think they even knew what to do or say to me because I covered it up so well with makeup, clothes, hair, bulky jewelry that can cover scratches and scarves I wore around my neck.
: That's a pretty common thought, why not just leave him.
What do you say to people who think it's just that simple?
: You don't know where you're going to go or what you will do.
Plus, a lot of these women still love these men and think about the good in them.
Some women think things might eventually get better or he
didn't mean to hit me.
: When was the first time you saved a woman from her
abuser and transported her
to a safety in the middle of the night?
: A friend called and said she
knew of a woman who was beaten up pretty badly and we had to get her
We found out there were weapons in the house, so I had her
pretend like she
was sleeping and then call us back once he
passed out from being drunk.
did, we met her
down the street, got her
out and put her
in a shelter.
If you tell a person, just leave, she's
thinking about packing her
clothes and how her
kids are going to get to school the next day.
You have to have an exit plan and everyone's plan is different.
: Once they're out, what does Women Called Moses do for them?
: We do an evaluation over the phone and find out what's going on in the household.
If I find out he's
right then and there, I tell her
to get out immediately.
gone, I tell women to get their kid's birth certificates, a credit card, and medication if they need it and then call the police.
We'll even role play with the plan.
When the police get there, they will escort her
We don't advise them to get clothes or anything.
If the perpetrator is gone, we have to get her
It only takes less than five seconds for someone to pull a trigger.
: Why do you think there isn't a bigger to do in the Black community when it comes to domestic violence?
: People never want to talk about it.