Since the time of this posting there has been widespread concern with David Deida's
involvement with the Seduction Community.
While many of the pickup and seduction instructors have jumped on the band wagon using the universal principals of the Deida work, yet many still run Seduction Boot Camps charging up to $3,000 dollars teaching men how to pick up and seduce.
Other sites sell E-Books with instructions on the seduction techniques.
These tactics are manipulative and have consequences for both men and women.
events are now produced by the person named in this site and no announcements are ever made at his
workshops that some of the participants in these workshops may have come from marketing to subscribers of these seduction websites.
David Deida and his ties to the seduction community!
has become involved with a group of men who are associated with the "art" of Picking up and Seducing of women.
They call themselves Pick-up artists or PUAs for short.
If you google PUAs, the details are explicit.
The PUA community has now added "the Deida" work to their repertoire inspired by a well paid appearance he
made as the main presenter at a conference sponsored by Natural Seducers held in Toronto last June.
Since David's appearance, many other PUA sites have now added his work as a reference for how to pick up and seduce women.
Some are now calling me for advice and recommendations.
Needless to say, I am not interested in working with them.
I believe Deida's involvement with the PUAs not only compromises his
work, but actually puts participants in harm's way, especially women.
David Deida and the Seduction Community
has gone down a very slippery slope.
Last summer, he
made a choice to attend Natural Seducers Superior Man seminar.
most popular book is called The Way of the Superior Man.
not only participated as the headline presenter for the Toronto event, but now has an individual producing his West Coast events who has a website called Net2Bed (May 2008) . His name is Adam Gilad.
is even mentioning him by name in his
In October, Gilad produced the Los Angeles event for David Deida
We received reports that David
did not announce his
workshop rules at the Seattle workshop.
This is the first time we are hearing that he
has dropped these rules.
In my opinion, he's
doing so to give the PUAs, who are paying $1000 for a weekend to attend, an opportunity to practice what they learn.
I believe David Deida
is no longer committed to creating a safe environment in the midst of his
intense psycho-sexual processes.
Whatever reason he
may come up with for his
failure to create a safe environment especially for women, the facts speak for themselves.
Having worked with David
consistently from 2002 to 2006, his
workshops always had more women than men.
With Net2Bed emails that have the subject headings like - David Deida
and 75 women, it's no wonder the PUA (Pick-up Artist) wannabes are now enrolling in David's seminars.
Also on the evidence page is a copy of the Natural Seducers site from June 2007 where David Deida
is listed as their partner.
and Natural Seducers as partners?
Partners in what you might ask!
If David Deida
is allowed to continue his
work and stay involved with the PUA community, he
places men and women especially, at risk.
I mention men as well because often women who are in relationships attend David's workshops with the intent of bringing back what they learn to their male partners.
What man anywhere would want his
female partner attending a workshop with participants seeking to improve their seduction skills?
Like Gilad, look for David Deida
to suggest that his
involvement with the PUAs is a noble effort to change the direction of that community.
may reach a few, but with no infrastructure, no follow-up and no integration for his
work, any reformed PUAs would quickly return to the goal of "the Game.
I believe David Deida
is more concerned with money than maintaining and improving the quality of his
work and the participants who attend.
has reached many people to see intimacy as a spiritual practice and personally, I am forever changed by the work, but this reckless pursuit of a community of seduction aficionados is not the game that respects the emerging spiritual community, the likes of who attend workshops at major holistic centers.
If you follow the web of associations to other sites connected to www.NaturalSeducers.com listing David Deida
as their partner, you will find an endless array of information that denigrates and degrades women.
There is nowhere where David Deida
has revealed a plan to bring enlightened sex to the PUAs and I believe he
is setting himself up to cash in on seduction boot camps that charge up to $3000 per weekend.
Even the $2,750 he
charges for his
7-day intensives at Omega and Kripalu doesn't seem like a great deal given what men half his
age are raking in from the PUA wannabes.
Furthermore, from calls and emails I have received over the years, David's workshops and intensives are leaving more scars than healing for some participants.
At the last workshop I attended in 2006 as an assistant, David
neglected to announce the workshop rules which are designed to create a safe container for the participants.
I later emailed him that in neglecting to do so, several participants engaged in sexual activity during the seminar and as a result, a woman was hounded for months by a man she
met at the workshop.
emailed me back thanking me for pointing this out to him.
Let Your Voice be Heard
Now is the time to do you homework and to speak out.
Speak out to any group as to why they would sponsor David Deida
knowing what is going on.
Speak out and demand accountability.
Ask David why he
is involved with the PUA community.
Ask him what will safeguard the women who attend his
workshops and intensives.
Needless to say, he
has no phone number on his
website but his
email contact addresses are:
Ask the venues that bring him in if the cache of having a teacher of spiritual sexuality to enliven their schedule is worth the risk of placing their participants in harm's way?
Everyone knows sex sells, but prior knowledge of irresponsible behavior is not worth the risk of a tragic occurrence and the negative publicity that follows.
With all the sexual perversion in the world today, I thought David Deida
was a shining star of love and respect, but that does not seem to be the case.
I am deeply saddened to have to have brought to the public's attention, David's failure to live up to the noble ideals of which he
We would expect that the principles that he
expounds to be fully embodied in his
actions and associations, especially where it matters most with regards to the safety of the women in his
I believe that love, understanding and happiness are our natural state.
But unconsciously, we habitually decide on lesser ways of being.
Anyone in the position of influence such as David Deida
must be called upon to answer to his
I sincerely hope you can reach David Deida
sponsors and insist that he
break ALL ties with the PUA / seduction community.
© 2008 David Deida