The news of the divorce case between Pastor Chris Oyakhilome and his wife of 23 years, Anita, is the latest of shocking marital breakdowns among Nigerian preachers.
The then 30-year old Anita Oyakhilome
had had enough.
young marriage was turbulent.
The husband was hardly in town.
When around, he
was always busy with ministry works with too many "ladies in skimpy skirts" lurking around, according to a former domestic staff.
, according to multiple sources, was drained and exhausted.
had two young girls to cater for all alone.
The strain of raising them and working in the church weighed her
craved for her
husband's attention but couldn't get it.
was just damn too busy with church works.
The presence of too many ladies in his
office also left her
Then one day, she
decided to quit the marriage.
wanted out since she
was not getting emotional support.
was not loved enough and was becoming a pain for her
asked to call the marriage quit but her
husband would not hear of it.
said it would destroy his
ministry and church.
was willing to negotiate and Anita
felt comfortable with the proposal he
offered," a family source confided in our correspondent last week.
part, it would allow Anita
to express her
prodigious gifts and fulfill her
was to pioneer the UK branch of the church.
had always complained of being underrated and overlooked in the schemes of things.
had a calling and deserved more in the then budding church.
also settled down in her
new abode free from the emotional strains in Lagos.
time to building the church to a force to be reckoned with.
The branch she
built from the scratch became the Europe's headquarters of the church, raking in remarkable revenues and breaking new records.
was taken care of, her
emotional stability remained a challenge.
husband around for the growing daughters.
, it was learnt, became aggrieved in November 2013 when she
was shut out of the church.
husband, sources said, became enraged when she
allegedly started making demands and claiming equality.
of planning to usurp authority and being rude to senior pastors of the church.
reaction was to seize the church from her
, on her
parts, felt she
had contributed enough to be so recognised.
wanted more visible presence in the schemes of things and thought she
was being shut out.
Sources close to her stated that having pioneered the UK branch to stardom, she should have been further elevated despite being the Vice President of Believers' Love World Incorporated.
The public accusations meant nothing again to Anita
, who had already filed for divorce.
husband was going for her
jugular and cared less.
Long before the suit was filed, Anita
had been prevailed upon to reconsider.
"Pastor was willing to make peace because of the backlashes on the ministry and their daughters.
had made up her
mind," a source in Pastor Chris' camp hinted.
The charismatic preacher reportedly offered to give her more attention and visibility but Anita, it was learnt, could not trust him again.
It was learnt that Anita
perfectly timed her
The first daughter, Sharon was going to be 21.
clocked 21 on August 11 and threw a bikini party in London for her
Their understanding, it was learnt, convinced Anita
to finally go ahead with the suit.
The daughter of a former MD/CEO of Nigerian Deposit Insurance Corporation
(NDIC), Mr. John Ebhodaghe, Anita
met Pastor Chris in the former Edo State University
now Ambrose Alli University where she
mother is Swiss and she
is the first in a family of five children.